Last week I had the privilege of attending an 8th grade graduation. I enjoyed the ceremony because it was short, sweet, and to the point. As I left after the 45 minute ceremony, I saw one of the 8th graders walking home alone. He was one that I had seen many times after school riding his bike home. At that moment I was saddened and began to the think about the power of a parent’s presence. Now I don’t know his situation, but I want to use it to make a point about the power of a parent’s presence. You being present can make all the difference in your child’s life. I can only imagine what his transition to high school will be like, considering no family was present to celebrate his success.
I think about student’s who are transitioning from a milestone grade level. For example, those going from kindergarten to 1st grade, 5th grade to the middle school environment, 8th grade to high school, and even 12th grade to college or the workforce. These transitional stages in the educational journey are usually marked by some type of ceremony. Some ceremonies and achievements are more celebrated than others which brings different levels of support from parents, family, and friends. This support can encourage or the lack thereof discourage.
I encourage you to celebrate the successes along the way of your child’s educational journey. If you and your child have shared goals of graduating from high school then celebrate the milestones along the way as they pass each grade level. If you and your child have shared goals to pass that math class that they’re struggling in, then celebrate passing test grades.
Think big picture, see the beginning and the end with everything in between and plan to celebrate all that lies in between. Not only will this keep motivation and build momentum but it will also keep the goal in mind. Please don’t take for granted how much a sincere word of encouragement and celebration can provide focus and direction for your child.
Presence as a parent goes far beyond your actual presence, but trust that showing up is half the battle. Since you showed up you might as well be sincere, engaged, and encouraging in the process. Start where you are and do what you can to positively influence your child along their educational journey. Keep in mind that your child’s main responsibility now is education, but the lessons you teach, values you demonstrate, and support you show will provide the foundation for who they are to become well beyond where they are right now.
Parents never intentionally mean to communicate they don’t care, but actions always speak louder than words. Prioritize and make time to spend with your children, be involved in things with them, and show you care as you connect with them. What does your presence as a parent say to your children? What does a lack of your presence communicate? Think on these things and if needed make some adjustments, because you can’t get back the years.
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